To be a Woman of 26 in This Society

Living in a Society where women are questioned for everything.

Why she needs a man with good financial status to marry, Is she not capable of herself?

Is she living independently?

Does she have a social circle?

Does she had past relationships?

And a Woman is trained to answer these questions carefully because this man dominating society may judge her wrong.

If she chooses to be honest, she is too direct for them.

If she chooses to lie, she is too old fashioned for them.

Even if she tries her best, she cant satisfy everyone.

Do a Man likes to answer all these questions, when it comes to him?

Ofcourse, NO!

But he has complete right to ask these from his Lady to be!!

Pathetic!

Well! It is hard to be Woman anyway.

And it is hard for the society to Accept A Woman with an Opinion!

Now, Answering all these questions to Men!

Why she needs a man with good financial status to marry, Is she not capable of herself?

Yes! She needs a Man with a Financial Status because she don't own any of his fathers property. She wants to feel secure for her and her children in future. And yes, she is capable of herself making money, despite of that she chooses to be with someone who can offer that security to her.

Is she living independently?

Well! on one hand you are looking for an educated girl and on the other hand you are questioning her independence. She is proud of her independence that she earned. She does not like being questioned about her independence. And she does not like being judged from her lifestyle.

Does she have a social circle?

I may have a social circle or may not. But I clearly understand that why you asking this question. I don't mind answering this question but I don't appreciate the intention behind the question.

Does she had past relationships?

Why you are concerned with my past more than my present and future, if you really wanted to ask this, you should have asked differently. Well! you have to learn it yourself.
May be something like, is there anything happened in past that can affect our future together?
I guess, no woman would mind to answer that question.

Why a Man is not asking about her future goals and aspirations?

I wish there would be men who agree on this, otherwise women like me are going to end up being Single.

Read Further If You Want to Understand People Better!!

Have you ever wondered that no matter how hard you try to make people understand your point of view, but they don't really get it. I can explain you how and why.

First thing first, I must ask you this question, Do you believe in Star signs? If yes, you are going to love this post, but if you don't you may think I am stupid until you start observing the facts or start seeing people the way I see them.

I will explain you further!!

How and Why I started observing people?

I know this guy, I liked him from very beginning and I was curious to know about him, more and more. But I had no idea what to do, because he was never that into me and I was too shy to ask him directly. So I thought maybe his Birth sign could tell me more about him. I did that for fun, I was not a believer in astrology I promise. Even today I don't read daily horoscope or believe in everything that astrology says, I just believe in the experiment that I did to understand people better.

What are the Results that I discovered?

At the beginning I found it interesting so I started reading further about other signs, there characteristics and started comparing people around me with their signs. And the results actually shocked me. People are 90% like there STAR Sign. But I needed more justification on this from myself, so I did another experiment. I started asking some people(that I just met or new to me) their date of birth, and started predicting their behavior or characteristics. And guess what? It was 100% successful experiment. So I had no choice but to believe this.

What I learned from my experiments?

There are 4 types of people on this planet. We are defined by our element, Each Zodiac sign belongs to one of these 4 elements. Out of 12 signs, 3 signs belongs to one element. Here is the list of elements-

AIR - People of Element AIR have basic characteristics like Air. (can't explain everything in one article)
AIR Signs are- GEMINI, LIBRA, AQUARIUS

FIRE - Same, they are like Fire
FIRE Signs are- ARIES, LEO, SAGITTARIUS

WATER - Same, I am kind of water
WATER Signs are CANCER, SCORPIO, PISCES

EARTH - Same, have characteristics like earth
EARTH Signs are TAURUS, VIRGO, CAPRICORN

Now, AIR, FIRE combinations are the best for each other, they don't really get along with other 2 element signs.

EARTH and WATER combinations are the best for each other and same. They don't go well with FIRE or AIR.

I am sharing this image for better understanding of signs and their compatibility. But surely EXCEPTIONS are there!!

How this is helpful for you?

We waste our so much time and energy figuring out that who is right for us. Commitment is a big deal for us, and we don't have time to waste with wrong people. If you understand this, you have the power to understand people in first or few more meetings that he or she is someone worth your time or not.

Its not only for relationship purpose, it can help you to choose your friends wisely, understand your family, colleagues, employees or clients better.

Hope this can help you to understand that why some people don't really get you. Or why some people understand you so easy. 

60,000 Thoughts A DAY!!

Can we control what we think?

There are some feelings or wounds from past that haunt us. Everyone wants to get over the past and the things that changed our thought process. We only think what we feel.

Question here is -

Can you control what you feel?

I would say YES!! Of course!! You are the master of your own fate. You can control your thought process. I cannot say that it’s easier to do so because there are 60,000 thoughts a day. You cannot control each thought that cross your mind, but there are some best known practices that can transform your whole thought process.

How to change what you feel?

It’s a day to day practice. You can start from the morning, if you start your morning with a positive energy; you welcome positive thoughts all day.

You can start your day thinking about the things or person that makes you happy. Thinking about the last best thing happened to you. Thinking about the happiest moments spent with loved ones, thinking about the ones who love you.   

You can adopt a pet. Animals are suckers for love. They love you unconditionally. They will charge you with love every day, there is a lot that you can learn from animals.

You can start your day doing something good. That includes helping the poor, helping the needful, for example you can help an old lady with her bags, greeting people with a smile. Have you ever tried this? Smile at a stranger, they will reflect it back.

If you have something positive to think about, you will feel that way.  If you do any of the above practice, you have 80% positive thoughts of your 60,000(total quota for a day). The rest 20% will start fading with time.

If you have any views on this, please share in the comment section below.

Do Girls really Distract Guys?

"She rules my mind, as if she f***ing owned it." SHE MEANS DISTRACTION

How many times you hear this from a guy? I guess most of times, ofcousre from the ones who are dealing with a girl. LOL!!

I myself a girl and I totally agree with it. We and madness go hand in hand, no matter how smart or strong we are. Most of the guys think that no girl means no problem, no distraction, but that is not a solution at all. I can explain you how.

Who were you before you knew this Girl?

You have a stable life, peaceful, reserved. Your work is your only priority. You think that nobody owns you. You have the freedom to decide what you want and do whatever you want. Checking out random girls gives you extreme pleasure. No one is there to ask you questions at the end of the day. And you have no doubt about the saying,"GIRL MEANS DISTRACTION"

Actually in real, it’s complete s*it. You were MAD then too. Somewhere deep inside your heart, you feel that need to be with someone to take care of you. Secretly, you are waiting for that ideal girl to enter your life, the girl you imagine could be yours. Also, you sometimes feel jealous of your besties talking to their girlfriends, partying every Saturday, posting cozy selfies on facebook.

And Then a girl enters your life.. 

Her beautiful smile changed your world. She is exactly something you dreamed about. She is spark, beautiful, a sense of adventure(lets keep she is everything you ever wanted). But now, again you feel like loosing your control over your balanced life and plan.

You are trying to hold on, as she came closer. Sleepless nights, daydreams and restless thoughts, you feel like she's controlling your mind.

Actually, you went MAD. Or maybe this is LOVE.

Your practical theory strikes again: GIRLS ARE DISTRACTION

Now, when you know that a girl have the power to control your mind. You start stabilizing your world. Leaving that girl and ignoring her, or changing your number, thinking that its a temporary phase of life and you would escape this. For a day, sometimes more than days you feel great, peaceful, light headed.

And then again, as days pass, you are mad again. If she was the reason behind your madness then why are you still f***ing mad again?

I can explain you why!

Yes, we make you mad. But your mind couldn’t accept  the fact that it’s ok to be mad for a girl and go crazy over her. It is very much normal to be distracted by a girl. She is going to rule it. But if you assume that distraction is damaging, that can effect your FOCUS.

Also madness can be positive, those romantic poetry, creative writings, powerful lyrics never originated from pure consciousness.

So, how to get back your focus?

Stop taking your life so seriously, stop judging everything happens to you. By doing this you risk losing not just a good person and potential life partner, but yourself. That's the last thing anyone should want to do.

Solution is to control your mind by living in the present and get back to her as soon as possible. The more you believe a girl is DISTRACTING you, the more SHE WILL!

Every Inch of You Matters!!

I often ask myself the question: who am I? And later I realized that there is no definition that can describe me perfectly. What I am is something that can always change. What I want to be today can become what I will be tomorrow. I, an individual, am in a constant process of transition, learning and progressing towards where my heart and mind takes me. I am not just flesh, blood and skin.  I am a human who is capable of learning; improving and bringing change to every aspect I think that requires it.

This article is for each and everyone who reads this. Especially for a friend of mine!! I cannot say that he is my best friend; I just came across him and figured out that he is actually the best example of being a FRIEND. He's just loosing his own importance caring about others.

So Mr./Miss, make yourself the highest priority. Don’t limit yourself just to your comfort zone because quite honestly that is something any ordinary person can do. You might say what is wrong with being ordinary? Well clearly everything. When you are ordinary, you can be replaced. There are too many a people out there who can easily be ordinary. Make sure when you are well able to think and reason that you are able to see through various lenses from which the earth can be seen.

Now here are a few reasons why you should value yourself

·         Value yourself because it’s not necessary that you get that treatment from someone else. Loving yourself is the biggest favor you can do.

·         When you love yourself, others don’t matter. In my opinion family is the only part that matters. The thing is that friends and colleagues will be temporarily present. They will either go on and on about complications in their life, but might not really notice if you are experiencing some trouble. Of course exceptions are there, but family is the only reliable source of support one can have.

·         Depending on others might be the reason why you are lagging behind. There are some people that you might come across in life and might seem very good friends, but make sure such people don’t anchor you. If you want to do something, then don’t let those people be the reason why you can’t do it. Remember no one can be you. When you are you then it is your utmost duty to be you.

·         You are your own competition. So set your goal and keep your aim straight. Distractions would obviously be present, but it is going to be your love for yourself that would give you racketeering results.

·         You are your own happiness. Enjoy yourself, your company and your life. Keep in mind that when you have yourself your life is complete. We often mistake others for being on our life. While that can be true, it usually isn’t. There is a possible risk of others being able to betray you. You can’t betray yourself. Be truthful to yourself and your life would be worth living.

When its time to Move On!!

To all my dear near Girls who are out there waiting for THE ONE. All guys out there thinks that we girls are stupid, biggest weapon they use against us is to ignore us. 

But we know that we are not stupid, don't ever let any guy do that to you. 

I will share some points with you, When its time to MOVE ON!!

If a guy keeps telling you from more than a week, that he is busy busy. Trust me, he is not into you anymore. Time to MOVE ON!!

If a guy tells you that work is his top most priority, its the top most excuse guys give. Time to MOVE ON!!

When a guy talks to you, or call you only when he is alone or once in a month. Its game that guys love to play!! Time to move on!!

When a guy keeps telling you, that he is afraid of commitment. Never wait for him for change. Its not that he will not change. He will change, but only with THE ONE. If he is afraid to commit with you, you are not the one for him. So Move On!!

When he is causing you emotional/physical/verbal hurt. Time to Move ON!!

I know girls that you are so much into him that you still hope that things get better. Trust me it will not. 

And If even after break up he is still in touch with you, and want to keep you as a friend. He has secret motive behind this. He is reserving his seat in your life that he can come back if he has no other option. So if you really want something postive in your life. Leave everything behind and Move on!!

Now THE ONE you are hoping for..

He will not make excuses like these. He is the one who can balance both personal and professional life. 

He will think of you as a positive change in his life. 

And if he is into you, He will approach you directly and you will know. 

Also, Just remember, Good Guys Exist!! Never loose Hope!! Everyday is a new day!!